If you take on the role of the poor me, I don’t have enough, or I didn’t have the background that this person, or that person, had, you’re not going to go anywhere. I don’t care where your from or what your parents did or didn’t do, because I’m talking directly to you right now. It’s you that determines your success.
Embrace your story.
Yes, your path to get to where you want to go may not start off as pretty and entitled as someone else’s, but that’s your story, embrace it, share it, and use your tough road to success to help others know that there’s a way out.
Success is up to you.
Just because you didn’t go to a prep school, and then onto Harvard, it doesn’t mean that you’re not able to have just as much success as someone that did. Again, I’ll say that your success is completely up to you, but you need to drop the poor me. Your path to success may be through the muddy battlegrounds, while another person’s may be totally different. I’ll tell you what, me personally, I’d hire the person that fought through the muddy battlegrounds over the person that came through life untarnished and thinks that everything is perfect as long as it goes their way. Let me tell you, life is not perfect. I don’t care who you are, what you do, where you’re from, how rich you are, stuff is going to happen, in business, as well as in your family and relationships.
If you have the poor me attitude, life is going to stink, whether the best thing, or the worst thing is happening, it’s always going to come out stinking in the end.
Drop the poor me attitude immediately, and commit to yourself that you’re going make a difference by implementing a positive attitude, in every situation, no matter what. People that have dropped the poor me attitude are fighters. I say this because fighting through the poor me may well just be the biggest fight you have to win on a daily basis for the rest of your life.
Drop the negative.
A negative attitude will drive you to the ground. It will make people retract from you faster than anything else you can do. Your attitude determines your altitude. If you don’t understand that, basically it means that the better your attitude is, the higher you’re going to fly in life, as well as in business. Now life and business intertwine, so it’s vital to incorporate what you learn in life, into your personal office skills as well. Compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, forgiveness, just to name a few of them. Embody these, and people will know that you’re the person they can count on when they need to speak with someone about something that’s affecting their life.
You are who you hang around.
Now here’s the kicker, you are who you hang around. It’s like bad fruit, if you’re a good piece of fruit sitting next to and surrounding yourself next to a bad piece of fruit, for a long enough time, you’re eventually going to catch some of that fungus and become bad yourself. It makes total sense.
Believe me, poor me people love to hang around other poor me people, and even better for this type of person, is when they can convert a positive person into being a poor me person.
Don’t fall for it. If you know a poor me person, just make an exit and move on from that relationship as fast as you can. If they’re a family member, co-worker, or friend, gently provide them with information on how they may be able to improve their viewpoint. Listen, it’s tough to come out and say, “You’re poor me attitude stinks, and I’m just dropping our relationship because of it.” You have to be a bit more subtle, loving, and helpful than this, and if it’s an employee, there are laws you have to abide by to help them out.
But here’s the point I really want to drive home. I want you to know that it’s not where you’re from, but it’s where you’re going that matters the most, and I want you to know that regardless of your conditions, circumstances, and everything else that seems to have been holding you back, that you can drop the poor me attitude and do amazing positive things that help tons of people. I think that people that come from rough backgrounds and rise through the ranks are the absolute most amazing people. I call it beating the odds. Everything was stacked against you from the day you were born, nothing was ever given to you, you fought for everything from the time you were able to talk and walk, and now you’re a winner today.
It doesn’t get any better than this. If you’re the person that’s beaten the odds, it’s your responsibility to share your story with other at-risk people, especially our youth, because if they don’t hear from you that there’s a way out, they may never realize that there’s a way out. Take this information and take action on it today, not tomorrow, please.